Telling People

I'd rather keep things to myself.
I'd rather not share my personal struggles so openly.
I'd rather isolate.

When I do share, I tend to judge. I judge people's reactions (without wanting to). I judge how much they listen, what they reply, how sincere they sounded. I don't want to do this, but it happens every time.

It takes courage to admit something like infertility. It takes acknowledgement that it's actually happening. It makes you trust the person you are sharing this information with, you trust that they will actually know what to say.

Unfortunately, most people don't know what to say. 
It's worse to say nothing though.

It's worse to give generic advice.

Force me to talk about it. Force me to tell you details. Force me to not feel stupid when I finally do share. Force yourself to listen.

- Heather.