Thursday, March 28, 2013

Not UsefuL

Not Helpful.

I start to feel useless when people talk about being pregnant. I feel my shoulders shrug, my head lower, my eyes stare at nothing.

I don't feel needed.

While I love children more than anything, I feel completely incompetent around pregnant woman.  I long to understand. I like to give advice, encouragement, support. It's easier not to. I can't relate. I can imagine, but I cannot relate.

I lose confidence.

Pregnancy is something to be experienced.
Just as infertility is something to be tolerated.

Just as I struggle to hear advice from someone who has never gone through infertility, I feel useless to a good friend who is pregnant.

I don't understand.
Neither do they.

How are we to meet in the middle ?

- Heather

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